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A Homes Worth Is Not Measured In Memories

Life happens. While we wish that it wouldn’t things that we cannot control happen. What happens to us does not define us, how we react to these things does. Having to sell our home, the very house that you made memories beyond measure in, is one of the hardest things I have seen sellers go through. Whether a death, lay-offs, significant income changes, illness and/or disease, no matter the circumstance the very walls that surround the owner has a story to tell. From memorial plaques hanging on the wall, toothless adolescent children, graduation photos or even a piece of artwork when they once traveled the world all have a unique story that only the homeowner understands.


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Hidden, in the corner of a room, you may find a growth chart from one or all of their children. In the back, down the walk way, you may find a hand-print meticulously placed in the concrete. That rose bush isn’t just an ordinary rose bush, it was an anniversary gift from her husband. On all four corners of this house a home was made, and leaving it for whatever reason leaves a huge pit the stomach of the ones who inch by inch cared for it. If you peel back every single layer of that house you will find that from the ground up there is meaning. 


No matter where the story began when a homeowner sells their house, they are in fact, selling their story. They are selling their memories and closing a chapter of their life. As a Realtor it is our duty to not allow them to lead with emotion, but we do need to understand that emotion. We have to have enough empathy to understand how they feel, but to also lead and guide them in the most professional way. From explaining the process, to the listing price and to the closing table and beyond, it is our duty as their professional to talk with them and not at them. To ensure they understand that we understand their attachment, but that their homes worth is not measured in their memories.

Connecting with a Real Estate Agent who understands you, your memories, your attachment and your emotion is important. Connecting with an Agent who can sympathize but seperate ones self from these emotions are critical to getting your home sold. We all have a point in our lives where we want to " hear what we want to hear ", but an Agent who is willing to be honest and not just tell you what you want to hear is a Realtor who is looking out for you and wanting to do what benefits you. 

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Comment balloon 24 commentsKat DeLong • July 12 2019 04:53PM


Hello Kat- - -this is a very "real" part of real estate. And while it may be just a chapter,  it's a significant one.  Nicely told.

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 2 months ago

Thank you, Michael.

Posted by Kat DeLong, Realtor DRE#01235311, Lake Arrowhead Real Estate ( (LakeView Realty Enterprises, Inc) 2 months ago

Hi Kat- love your post. When an agent or stager meets with a client, it's important to put yourself in their shoes. We have to understand that there often is a great deal of emotion attached to their home. Remembering this can help us as we help them maneuver through the selling process. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) 2 months ago


                                            Thank you, Kat. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) 2 months ago

Congrats on being featured by Kathy this week!  Great post!

Posted by Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®, Giving Back With Each Home Sold! (RE/MAX Realty Center ) 2 months ago

Beautiful photo and beautiful post. It is imperative to recognize how difficult it can be for some sellers to move on. We have a couple right now who "have" to sell for health reasons. It's heartbreaking to see their sadness...

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) 2 months ago

As a person whose roots go deep, I sometimes envy those who pick up stakes and move every few years. But... it will never be me.

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) 2 months ago

I've often said this myself but you did a great job with the topic. I love your post.

Posted by Jill Sackler, LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate (Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500) 2 months ago

Good evening Kat DeLong - having empathy rather than sympathy is the best approach.  Make them feel  that the past mattered by they have a great future awaiting.

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) 2 months ago

This is so true; people are leaving a chapter of memories behind and we need to be empathetic. 


Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (406-270-3667 (MT), 914-419-0270 (NY), Broker in NY with Grand Lux Realty and in MT with (coming soon!)) 2 months ago

Beauitfully said Kat. It would be hard to sell when a family's life's memories are at every turn. Having an agent that understands that is invaluable. This post should have a gold star!

Posted by Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!, So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR (Prado Real Estate South) 2 months ago

Wonderful post, Kat DeLong! It is a fine line we walk by being compassionate enough to care but also being practical enough to perform our duties as professionals. There is no "one size fits all" when it comes to how to do this. You just have to adapt to each individual seller you represent. 

Posted by Greg Mona, Real Estate in the 21st Century! (Faira Homes Corp) 2 months ago

Hi Kat:

This is a wonderful post that says a lot about the challenges sellers face, some more than others, when it's time to sell and move on. It is a process, and evolution, and not a simply act that's easy to migrate, and those memories, and emotions, can make it so much harder. I think it can be even more difficult when the choice is forced due to health and other reasons. This should be featured!!


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) 2 months ago

Oh my, this so hits "home" in a very real way.  I just had to help my youngest daughter sell her home after a rough divorce.  She had put her heart, money and work into making this a forever home, but it just didn't work.  The sadness of selling was heartbreaking.

Posted by Marti Steele Kilby, CRS, Broker/Owner, San Diego, CA (Steele Group Realty) 2 months ago

Kat, this is a timely post (and so true) for me. I am handling two estate sales now and just handled a down sizing that was rough on the seller. We need to be supportive yet pragmatic.

Posted by Dana Basiliere, Making deals "Happen" (Rossi & Riina Real Estate) 2 months ago

The one piece of advice I received 20 years ago was helpful; just a small change of words... Wen you refer to a seller's property if is a HOUSE, when referring to a buyer's potential property is is a HOME. And when the seller starts to tell me about their kids growing up there, I respond, that sounds like this was a "NICE HOUSE, LET'S REVIEW YOUR GOALS."

Posted by Richard Foster, J.D., Broker Owner - ABR/M, CREN, CRS, GRI, RRG, SFR (Nevada Perfect Homes) 2 months ago

I agree having empathy and listening to the story is an important part of building trust with a client, however all those memories cannot be the reason to not pack everyone of them away. This is being firm to be kind. It serves no purpose at all to leave any of them fact it will be a deterrent. As Richard Foster said never use the word HOME "oh you have a lovely home" only reinforces the heartache; its a product they can't move on with their life without selling and likely they want the most money in the shortest time possible. Language is so important all through the process, for instance: don't say "here is a list of things to do" (feels like work). Working with a Certified Stager who is trained to handle these difficult situations works best. They will make sure you have awesome photos every time..gets you to SOLD faster..

Posted by Christine Rae 2 months ago

I learned this before I received my license.  When Mom and Dad sold their home and could not realize that they were selling a house.  It has been invaluable to understand and work with some of my clients.  Your words are well put.

Posted by Dwight Puntigan, Dwight Puntigan (DRP Realty, LLC) 2 months ago

Love your post Kat. We all deal with the emotions of selling a home and sometimes it is very difficult for sellers to understand that buyers won't pay for their memories. To them their home is their castle and all their memories are wrapped up in the home. I wrote an article similar to this several years ago when I encountered a seller who cried and cried because she didn't want to leave her home but had to for health reasons. It is tough for some and being empathetic but firm is necessary. Thanks for the great post. 

Posted by Sandra Paulow, REALTOR, Associate Broker, GRI, SFR (Aspen Properties, Inc. ) 2 months ago

What a beautiful post Kat.    It's important to hire someone who can empathize with the emotions and memories but help sellers come around to make important business decisions.

Posted by M.C. Dwyer, Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist (Century 21 Showcase REALTORs) 2 months ago

Our life's journey is filled with memories and experiences, yet, life is also  a journey of adventure and excitement. So, being empathetic IMO has it's limitations to a certain degree, while looking forward to the adventure and excitement moving forward by continuing your journey of life to achieve your goals and objectives should overcome any loss of your house. 

Posted by Kimo Jarrett, Pro Lifestyle Solutions (WikiWiki Realty) 2 months ago

A neighbor of mine is 90 and will not leave her house, ever. Her son does all her shopping for her. He and his wife go out to eat at a restaurant in the neighborhood, but his Mom will not go with them. She lives in the house where she was born and grew up, and where she lived with her husband and raised their kids.
For centuries a blue collar waterfront industrial area, it has changed. Pricey condos rape the old industrial piers. The tug boats don't dock here anymore. Once upon a time the old Recreation Center on the waterfront was where kids went after school to play and be safe from ship loading and unloading and the work in nearby canneries where their parents earned a living. The Rec Center was bought by a developer who turned it into a luxurious hotel. The sound of a tug boat whistle before dawn would bother hotel guests paying huge fees, so the tugs moved away. Her old blue collar neighbors moved when they could not afford to live here anymore. And the old lady who was born in a centuries-old row house on a narrow street does not recognize much outside her door anymore. She stays inside where everything is the same.

Posted by Zippy Larson 2 months ago

What a catchy title!  Have to tell the take the memories with you.  

Posted by Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR, Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area (Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes) 2 months ago

Great post and so very true, I have expereinced this with my sellers.  I know that in the near future, I will have to deal with this with my mom, selling my childhood home.  She is going to be 89 and we know the time is close, we are dreading it.

Posted by Christine O'Shea (Christine E O'Shea Broker-Associate) about 1 month ago